> The 20 min anal cleansing before sex
Not all (not even most) gay male sex is anal sex. There are plenty of gay guys that don't like anal at all, in fact.
People who do like anal end up in one of two situations:
they get good at the cleansing; I know people who are big into anal that have installed an anal douche for the shower; they spend an extra 5-10m showering if they think they might have anal sex later
They stop worrying so much about it. You don't need to douche before anal, it's really only to make you feel better about it. For a lot of people who enjoy anal (gay or otherwise), a little bit of poop just isn't that big a deal.
Seriously....bulb enemas are your friend. Not that you HAVE to do anal, it's not for everyone, but my wife and I both love it and this $10 piece of plastic and silicon keeps us clean.
https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-AA505-Enema-Bulb-Red/dp/B002SKG8GU
fortunately you don't need to clean your colon, just the rectum, the small portion of the colon just before the bend. just eat a lot of fiber for a few days prior and you'll be good, but if you're super anxious, get one of these.
but also, i understand why you're worried and it's fine for you to be worried, but if your boyfriend is also paranoid about this and absolutely doesn't want to get any shit on his dick, i advise you to retire the idea of anal altogether. it comes with risks, if you can't handle those risks, it's not for you.
I see your pump action enema, and offer this as your next suggested purchase:
I've bought this kit a long time ago.
The hose was garbage, get a proper stainless steel one. The large flared nozzle is really more of a novelty than something to use. The smallest one will be the best for douching/enemas. The rubber one is fun if you are into enemas as a kink.
I've found it best to not let go in the shower until you have really gotten the large stuff out of the way. Just seems to work better. Take a little bit of water, hold it for a bit, go to the toilet, repeat.
Also, I recommend getting a 3 way diverter, that will let it go to both the shower and the hose at the same time, that way you have a means of limiting flow to the hose. Going full tilt is not safe.
This is the exact kit that I have. I've had it for years, and use it often without issue.
They already make this.
https://www.amazon.com/All-One-Shower-Enema-System/dp/B00MWB5I9S
You can also use a cheap plastic water bottle if you need to clean up in a pinch.
So uh, quick word of advice.
https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-AA505-Enema-Bulb-Red/dp/B002SKG8GU
That's an enema bulb, but it's commonly used as a manual bidet.
If you're worried about running out of toilet paper you can literally just wash your ass every time you go, and you'll waste less paper and be cleaner for it. I discovered bidets in europe, and I got a cheap and effective one for my own toilet, and I take one of these with me when traveling because I hate not feeling clean back there now.
Haven't had an itchy ass in years. And yeah, I guess I gotta make do in public toilets (when making doo anyway) but with the pandemic I've not used one of those in... fuck, can't remember the last time.
I don't mind that the rest of you are walking around with filthy, filthy buttholes, I'm just glad I'm not anymore.
Anyway, thank you for coming to my ted talk about how you can save some trees by washing your ass properly.
Here’s the extender
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B078SYW6MN/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_60HT1ERWKTXQ1SGYEE28
It’s cheap and I might recommend you think about vacuum instead since apparently I’m risking nerve damage. But there it is.
As far as Velcro, I just had some double sided Velcro that I was using as a cable strap. I can try to get a pic of it in a bit so you can see what I did. It’s a very easy mod, nothing revolutionary
You want the silicone end. It will go past the 2nd spinchter and go right to the sigmoid.
All in One 4 Tip Shower Enema System https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MWB5I9S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_DDXDJJG7GRMAXFB2F65Y
https://www.amazon.com/CalExotics-Penis-Extender-Enlargement-Enhancement/dp/B078SYW6MN
Calexotics Extender, its a cheap rod extender that lets you swap between a noose/strap
I can see why that one would hurt. It's just not a good design. It's narrow and long, so it can feel like it's poking her. Our inside isn't a one straight line.
Try this one, it's more ergonomic, and the tilt can help stimulate her A or G spot. Have the tilted side towards her pussy. Women don't have prostates, but there's still a lot of sensation near the uterine area. Don't go for steel or glass stuff for newbies, soft is more comfortable especially when you warm it up in hot water.
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Take an Imodium then use a shower douche a couple times.
This is what you need and use the black hose. Make sure you go past the 2nd spinchter.
All in One 4 Tip Shower Enema System https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MWB5I9S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_yPerFb0VWDF1S
They suck. This is what you need and use the black tube. Get it past the second spinchter and you will be super clean. Get it past the sigmoid and you can clean out your whole large intestine.
All in One 4 Tip Shower Enema System https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MWB5I9S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_vyeoFb56EQYGN
What you need is a basic enema bulb. They're available at some pharmacies, including CVS if you live in the United States - I'm sure they're also fairly easy to find in other parts of the world, but I don't know specifics. Anyway, it's basically a rubber bulb that you fill with water, and then a nozzle that attaches that you can use to squeeze the water in. It's good for a quick cleaning, and is easy to keep hidden since its small. Something like this. That being said, since you're not experienced with enemas, definitely make sure you push out *all* the water before you start playing! Sometimes water will get stuck up behind your colon which will make it feel like you're empty, only to get let out later once you're playing! It can be very messy. I usually just stick a few fingers up there as deep as I can go while I'm still on the toilet to double check. You'll get used to it after doing it a few times.
Anyway, I definitely recommend getting yourself nice and clean before play sessions - feces can cause friction and discomfort, plus then you won't have to worry as much about cleaning poop off your toys, hands, and other surfaces.
I recommend an enema bulb! It's really old school, but my oh my. It never fails with me. I've had one for like two years now, totally feel like a hippy but my doctors say that's better than laxatives which can irritate the bowels and cause addiction. But what do I know! Stomachs are weird! I'm so glad for your touchdown! I wish you many more!
It's the Enema after the real Enema. And it's good assplay with your woman.
Enema bulb - squirt warm water up there, squirt it out. Do it a few times until the water is coming out clear. Afterwards wait 30 minutes so that any residual water up there has time to be absorbed. I usually take a shower during that period and soap up down there.
Shower cleaners are the best, ive used one my friend has and you can get it pretty deep with it. Much better then the Douche bulbs.
He has one like this. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00MWB5I9S/ref=s9_acsd_hps_bw_c_x_3
The next best thing would be using the Water Bottle kit if you cant use a the shower one.
You don't need to do a full enema, which uses quite a bit of liquid. Consider using an 8oz rectal syringe like this one.
Getting lots of fiber in your diet helps tremendously. One way to increase your fiber intake and make anal sex a little easier is to take Metamucil several times a week. The psyllium fiber, which is the active ingredient, creates a mucilage that does a great job of encapsulating fecal material in your gut. The end result is that there is very little feces left in your rectum and anus after pooping. It's wonderful stuff if you enjoy anal play. Disclaimer: I have no connection to the maker of Metamucil; I just enjoy anal play.
I hate the stupid name (we know where it's going, don't call it that) but I use this:
http://www.amazon.com/Novelties-Nasswalk-Booty-Douche-Purple/dp/B003ZPY30K
It's bigger than what bsmith suggested, but seems like it makes me aware of what's about to happen back there after I know I'm clean.
Ok, first, that's gross. If your in the situation in which you'd even consider using a toothbrush to clean out an enema bulb, you're doing something wrong. 2nd, this is super easy to fill, clean, etc. http://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-CleanStream-Deluxe-Enema-Bulb/dp/B005HZU06C/ref=sr_1_40?ie=UTF8&qid=1354985407&sr=8-40&keywords=enema