I think you nailed the two most recommended things.
I have the Aneros prograsm and it was worth every penny. I do understand not wanting to waste the money in case you don't like it (I did the same thing as you and wasted money on a dildo and a vibratory that I didn't like and threw away), but I don't know any specific aneros knockoffs to suggest.
I have a knock off NJoy and it has been fantastic. As stated by another user if you get one that is made with the same grade of stainless steel it should be just fine. This is the one I got from Amazon:
The Njoy wand is a must!! I was EXACTLY as you described... external only orgasms, but enjoyed and was still turned on during penetrative sex. I knew I was missing something.
I bought this https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
It has been directly compared to the Njoy and it is indistinguishable. If the Njoy wand was any better than this, I would kill over.
It not only provided my first direct g-spot and subsequent squirting orgasm, it's more. This part is harder to describe... but it also made my g-spot more sensitive. Kind of like when your mind can detect your thumb without you moving it or anything touching it. That's what it did for my g-spot! Like I discovered a whole new body part. Subsequent couples play and exploration became much more successful in the g-spot hunt and stimulation game.
I still like a little external stimulation along with internal to really take me over the edge. And anal play is awesome in its own right.
I also found that instead of your partner asking "tell me what you like/what feels good", is to have them doing their thing and then say "do you like this OR this", "here OR here". The choice between 2 actions is much easier to define than an open ended question. I hope that makes sense!!
TLDR: Buy the wand; keep experimenting; happy orgasming
I’m glad to hear your comfortable in your body! A lot of people also really like the NJOY wand and you can read amazing reviews online from women. Nothing is a guarantee but here’s a cheaper version. It stimulates the g spot!
And I get what you mean now! It’s not so much about the sex but about connecting with your friends. I know that sucks a lot and I felt behind as a teen too. I don’t know what really to recommend besides connecting to them in other ways. There’s so much time for you to have that experience and then be able to connect!
There are all kinds handsfree ways to cum. Depends what you’re interested in, because there are lots of options. You can use chastity cages to keep the temptation at bay. You can also use magic wands and other strong vibrators, treating it like a clit (a fun combo with the cage). You can also try e-stim, which is stimulation by electricity (no hands required).
I recommend looking at “handsfree” porn for ideas. There are a lot of people who can cum without any touch, but I imagine that comes with a lot of edging/abstaining.
But to answer your question, yes, you absolutely can cum just from anal. Get some good lube and toys. Silicone lube is great, and stays slippery — but it can’t be used with some toys.
This is a great one for internal stimulation:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_4vkMFbTWJCSK5?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I should also note that these are not things I do myself, but it’s the kind of porn I enjoy watching. 😊
Purchased this knock off on Amazon, replaced Njoy which was lost during a move. It’s medical grade stainless, and identical in weight, shape, and quality of the njoy. Honestly no reason to buy the njoy for 3x the price IMO. Had it for 3 months now, love it https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0773GTR7C/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
The Njoy wand is the gold standard when it comes to prostate stimulation, but they will run you $100. If you want a cheaper alternative, there are dozens of imitators on amazon, I can personally vouch for this one. The only downside is it's really heavy so you have to slow way down while you use it, but the curve makes finding the p-spot a non-issue. As for the sensation itself, it's subtle so you need to slow down to find it. He should feel a lot of pressure and an almost overwhelming need to pee.
I have a pure wand knockoff, this one on Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_NRZRHRFKRGSVENJD0X1R?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
The reviews are very good, it’s very smooth and shiny, and I weighed it and measured the volume by water displacement and it has the exact density of stainless steel. While a company could make something that LOOKS like stainless out of plated cheap metal, that wouldn’t have the same density and if they went so far as to fake the density as well, it would probably be more expensive than just using stainless.
The one difference mine could still have is that maybe it’s not made with 316L surgical grade steel, but a lower grade. Lower grades are still body safe though except in some fringe cases like if you have a nickel allergy, which I don’t (and even 316L can trigger some nickel allergies, at least in ear piercings). The only way to tell a difference is if I ever see it corrode. In which case, I’ll get rid of it and buy an njoy one.
Unfortunately no one can say if the German knockoff version you’re looking at is as good as the US amazon version, but hopefully this helps.
It’s a “Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate Fetish Plug Bedroom Sleeping Restraint Neutral Masturbation” - lol what a name! Feels very solid, can’t complain for the price.
The Njoy is a game changer. BUY IT (see the end of this)! I could wrote a book, but I'll try to be concise.
Before I bought one, I was convinced my lady bits were broken and needed serious tech to get me to cum again. I NEVER thought a hunk of metal would work. I was WRONG.
I thought I knew my GSpot, nay nay.. NJoy personally introduced us, and made sure I'd never forget. Dead serious. Since NJoy, I can sit completely idle and feel exactly where my GSpot is. I can feel it really well when I'm horny (again, with NO touching). That didn't happen before. Pleasure and orgasms are easier to achieve now, and not just with the NJoy itself.
Side note: it's ahhh-mazing for prostate stimulation too.
I will catch shit for this, but this is the one I own. I have compared it SIDE BY SIDE to an NJoy, and they are indistinguishable. BUT, having said that, just get one from where ever you want... because I would make payments if it was the only way to own one. Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
There is!! I have this one and it is indistinguishable from the NJoy. And I'll say this a million times, if the only way to own this was to make payments, I would do it. Period. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_TH63YV6Y1JS71TFAANS7?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I've found that some plugs just aren't long enough for some people. It's the whole "we're all made different" thing. I HIGHLY recommend the NJoy Pure Wand. It's uncanny how it locates your prostate (and g spot for women). It works fantastic on its own, but I have also held various vibrating toys against it, and let the vibes travel through it. Aahhhh... So nice. I could go on and on.
I know I'm going to get shit for this, but I actually bought a copycat bc I was afraid I wouldn't like it. Little did I know!! And, knowing what I do now, I'd make payments if that was that only way to buy one! Mine is solid, well made, heavy and fantastic. I've compared it to a friend's NJoy and you can't tell them apart. Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate Fetish Plug Bedroom Sleeping Restraint Neutral Masturbation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_3Z14ZH59WZDA2J2ZH40F?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I bought a knockoff called Romi on Amazon for $30 a couple years ago and it’s been perfect. Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate Fetish Plug Bedroom Sleeping Restraint Neutral Masturbation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_XGxACZQPiakHt
Since you like that one so much, check this out - amazing toy & amazing price: Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate Fetish Plug Bedroom Sleeping Restraint Neutral Masturbation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabc_BoNYFbC3N9H5Q?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/
I use this from Amazon. It claims to be only stainless steel, but I certainly have no way to confirm that. It's definitely solid all the way through though.
Cleans up easily, has a good weight. I take care not to bump it into stuff cuz I really don't know how easily it would scratch/dent. I've seen a claim in the reviews that it dents easily but, I haven't hit mine into stuff, so I don't know.
if you're in the us, this is a generic njoy wand, its pretty good for its price.
>https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx\_pop\_mob\_ap\_share
Wow, you sold me! Going to try this one out.
I bought this and the reviews seem to say it’s the same as a normal pure wand, coming in tomorrow so ilyk how it works
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_j1saGbHMZJ7G6
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=redir_mobile_desktop?_encoding=UTF8&%2AVersion%2A=1&%2Aentries%2A=0 "Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate Fetish Plug Bedroom Sleeping Restraint Neutral Masturbation "
This is the knockoff I bought: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Solo, I used this little wand that stimulates the G-spot after I was very turned on. It definitely did the trick for me: https://www.amazon.com/Romi-Stimulate-Sleeping-Restraint-Masturbation/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=pd_lpo_1?pd_rd_i=B0773GTR7C&psc=1#customerReviews
I thought there where bots putting positive reviews about njoy on here because they where so positive… well I have confirm them! The toy is amazing! Like so so much better then I expected! But you don’t have spend the name brand price I got this one and it’s awesome. RomiMassageG-spotStimulate...https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I felt the urge to pee in my clitty when using my dildos and knew that meant I was gonna orgasm. Switching to this helped me fall over the edge
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I used this. I’m sure I could do it with a dildo once I get enough practice.
The ball on the big end hits the spot for me https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Njoy pure wand really does feel good but you do have to move it yourself. People will warn about knockoffs and I think it’s a valid concern, but the one I got from amazon is the exact density of stainless steel (I tested it) so I know it’s not mystery metal. It could be a lower grade of stainless but I don’t know of major risks of that, maybe a nickel allergy reaction? Surgical steel like Njoy uses still has nickel in it. But if you are wary I think you could buy a similarly curved glass toy and get almost the same effect minus the weight, which can sometimes be too much.
There’s actually a vibrator version of the same shape that’s pretty cheap too: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08Q4JPPP5?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share (would recommend buying at target). The shape makes it really easy to hit a “deep set” gspot and even though the vibrations are not that strong, they feel really good imo.
Other than that, the Pillow Talk Sassy has a gspot shape and rumbly strong vibrations, but it’s flexible so you don’t get as much pressure from it and can’t necessarily hit a specific spot as well as the C shaped toys. Other strong, rigid, G-spot shaped vibrators you could look into are the Blush Wellness G Curve, Romp Hype, Picobong Moka (all cheaper) and Lelo Mona, Nu Sensuelle Gemini, and Jopen Vivian (more expensive). I haven’t tried any of them but they are on my list because of good reviews!
right they are but I bought the knockoff from Amazon and its just as good
$30 for the same thing - high quality, solid, heavy, smooth.
Amazon has a really good knock off for $30 and it’s real solid stainless steal. Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate Fetish Plug Bedroom Sleeping Restraint Neutral Masturbation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_9HVVT4SF91MGVXEFXQDX?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I purchased a knockoff version on Amazon for $30. Probably just as good as the original.
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i think a big thing for me is the slow constant pressure, something like this works wonders for me. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2_dt_b_product_details
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0773GTR7C/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 This is what I use and it's excellent. One of the reviews includes a pic comparing it to the real thing, so you can see how similar it is.
https://www.amazon.com/Romi-Stimulate-Sleeping-Restraint-Masturbation/dp/B0773GTR7C
hows this one look? sorry if im asking too many questions just trying to get the right thing haha.
I see you're in France, not sure how well amazon works there, but this been one of my favorite additions
I have this one
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
It is 100% solid stainless steel. Flawless finish. Perfect. Irreplaceable.
I usually use 5-7 toys for a typical play session that lasts between 2-4 hours on average. The first 3 are the ones I use to warmup and get in the mood.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0773GTR7C Metal, easy to clean, really good at hitting my prostate.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08GK65WM6 the exact one I ordered is no longer available but I think this one is the same. Dual density silicone, very nice texture.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00VIKIH1A curved nicely for prostate stimulation, fairly smooth, NOT silicone but easy to clean.
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Or this: (some people like this because it has a good angle to hit the P spot. Also has a vibe in the base so your GF can mount you and grind this into your ass and she'll get off on it. {{smiles}}
This is a good inexpensive knockoff.
https://www.amazon.com/Romi-Stimulate-Sleeping-Restraint-Masturbation/dp/B0773GTR7C
Just got this wand the other day & it is tremendous.
https://www.amazon.com/Romi-Stimulate-Sleeping-Restraint-Masturbation/dp/B0773GTR7C
Couldn't see paying $150 USD for the original, which seems redickulously overpriced. I'm sure any self-respecting metal worker would say the same.
Mine is solid steel. Surgical or not, it matters little to me. It feels great & I'm looking forward to making more use out of it.
Meanwhile, keep talking with your partner. Inform each other before, during & after what feels good & what doesn't. Enjoy the adventure & each others company.
I just got this one off amazon. It was recommend to me in another group.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Also, we love this one. Romi Massage G-spot Stimulate... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share