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Interesting idea mate! I have a similar motivation for my peer to peer text chat system: https://www.confidist.com - But I am trying to give people enough context and commonalities to assist in being empathetic towards one another.

I wanted to jump in this thread to tell you all about a platform I've created that you are welcome to join. https://www.confidist.com - It promotes private 1:1 conversations that are community moderated. I think part of the problem of unregulated anonymous platforms can be solved by narrowing the scope to 1:1 and also by increasing empathy. I give people the opportunity to find a connection by showing them what they have in common. Anyway, I want to create a conversation platform that benefits those with an open mind. Stop by and drop some feedback. If you don't like it you can delete your account which will remove all your data.

I am using similar concepts on https://www.confidist.com except it's for new connections and not existing connections. We are community-based and for a one-on-one chat. Communities can set a conversation message limit, character per message limit, and sitewide I can set the total number of active conversations. And the idea is to help make messages more meaningful and to also lead to a natural end to a conversation rather than it being this open-ended commitment. Welcome to come and experiment if you want to see something in action!

Hi there. Feel free to PM me, but I also created a small social site for this situation: https://www.confidist.com (we are donation based with no ads so I hope no one minds a plug) and I would love to invite you to come check us out. The platform is a place for meaningful one-on-one conversation where you create or join a topic and when inside a conversation you can see all the personality, and interest attributes you share in common with the other person. This hopefully produces a sense of empathy and allows for an instant connection. It's a great spot for opening up and letting it all out there. Likewise for giving advice and expanding our points of view. I usually have a topic available and would love to listen. Kind regards -Nicholas

Hello! Nicholas here from Confidist (https://www.confidist.com - A place for meaningful conversation. We are donation based so I hope no one minds the plug). I find that preparation is great for something like a meeting for an interview... but detailed reference notes can absolutely ruin the moment and turn into the situation you described. The nice middle-ground for me has always been *minimal* notes. Maybe one or two words that remind me about a particular subject or broad talking point that I would rather not miss. That way in a quick glance, if needed, I can take a look at my notes and find a keyword the jogs a whole series of thoughts. However, more often than not... I am glad to just throw away all those pesky notes and be in the moment. And remember the conversation is an interaction between two people, so the best you can do is be attentive and responsive even if it just shows you are listening. Ask questions! Not preprepared ones, but follow up questions. This not only shows you are interested.. but it actually takes the pressure off of you to carry the conversation. And most people really enjoy going into greater detail about whatever subject they happen to bring up.. especially if that subject is themselves! -- Good luck, and I hope this helps.

Hi there. I have the chronic opposite problem in that.. I used to be able to relax and play games.. but now all I think about is how I am not being productive when playing games. I am the founder of a new social app (https://www.confidist.com - we are donation based so I hope no one minds the plug) that focuses on meaningful conversation as a response to how current social media has caused a particular addiction in the form of instant satisfaction. We get a little dopamine hit every time we check a notification or in your case hop on your favorite game. It seems fun at first.. but over time we just ask ourselves, what are we getting out of this activity? Yet we can't stop.

The solution isn't an easy one, but it starts with a desire to start reprioritizing how we spend our time in our heads, and just reinforcing that mindset over and over again. In a sense building new mental habits. Start by being intentional with your day, writing down goals, and seeing how the future you could benefit from making different decisions. Then HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE. Make the goals small enough that you absolution can accomplish them and do not allow yourself to cave. Just don't do it. I believe in you. Overtime with that trust and character building you will be able to overcome addiction.

Reach out to others for support. Kind regards -Nicholas

Hey OP, thanks for being so generous with your time and so open to helping strangers. I would love to invite you to participate at https://www.confidist.com. We are a place for meaningful one-on-one conversations. (Donation based so I hope no one minds the plug). I am networking to find like-minded people who see the intrinsic value of genuine human interaction with strangers. Kindly, Nicholas

Hi there! Remember that being interesting isn't as important as being caring. And more than both, simply being an active listener goes a long way. The real tragedy of social anxiety is we spend so much time in our heads thinking about what to say, that we don't stop and allow ourselves to be conscious of what exactly the other person is trying to convey. If both people spend all of their mental energy just trying to spit out the most interesting topics they know off hand, a conversation would be more like a pinball machine than a coherent thread of thought.

In case you or anyone reading might be interested, I created a new social site for meaningful conversation https://www.confidist.com. We are still very new so I would appreciate some participation from caring and genuine people. It might be a good place to "practice" talking people folks. Each conversation is focused to a single topic so it isn't so open ended, and when you enter a conversation we show all the personal attributes you have in common with them to help form a sense of an instant connection.

Feel free to PM me for any more tips in having a nice conversation. Happy to help. -Nicholas

I usually just take a chance with someone that I hope I can relate to based on some pretty superficial things. This isn't really the best considering people tend to just look for people who "look" like them vs people who necessarily are different and interesting. To help this problem I created a small social site https://www.confidist.com where you can join a conversation about a topic that you find interesting and after joining you can see all the attributes you have in common with that person to help create an instant connection. I am looking for early users if anyone here is interested. Kind regards -Nicholas

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Take any of these built in conversation starters and try them out on my small social site: https://www.confidist.com ... we are about meaningful conversation and are entirely funded by optional Patreon subscriptions. Come check us out! Thanks -Nicholas

Hi there. I can very much empathize with your situation and I think I have a tool that might be helpful. If anyone here has a similar problem with carrying a conversation and just want some "practice" I would fully recommend becoming an early memory of my social site https://www.confidist.com. We host meaningful one-on-one, private, conversations in the form of text chat. You can create or join a topic for conversation, and when you enter one we show all the attributes you and the other person have in common to hopefully form a sense of an instant connection. The conversation has a message limit so it doesn't seem like a huge commitment and we also have a moderation system that allows users to report any issues. Confidist is 100% free, and we have an optional way to people to contribute through Patreon. Let me know if this sounds helpful! Thank you -Nicholas

Thanks for pointing out this general concern. I noticed that https://www.confidist.com has the correct security settings applied but my other subdomains are not using the correct / valid cert. I have a wild card configured however something must need changing. I'll be looking into this ASAP.

1. Confidist
2. A portal for short private 1 on 1 conversation with accountability.
3. Rails 5.2, ActionCable, Sidekiq, Redis, and Postgresql. Hosted on AWS using ElasticBeanstalk.
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5. Source currently privatized, but feel free to PM with questions about implementation.
6. Senior Rails Dev professionally.
7. I would love some general feedback!